SOME SECRETS FOR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN

compiled from research by Chip Sommers

TRUE HAPPINESS is not achieved without considerable effort. mother Sommers

When dealing with the opposite sex, the normal social conventions do not necessarily result in the most pleasure to the individual. It is not easy to get the best of this situation without being trapped by society or the will of the species.

The following research is my best logic on the subject.

1) BE OBJECT NON-SPECIFIC

Do not overemphasize the differences between women. There are far more similarities than differences. Women know this.. most men do not! When you reach an unresolvable impasse with one woman, it is time to move on to another.

This gives you a virtually unlimited universe of women to choose from. Placing one woman high above all others is the beginning of the end. There are thousands of women you can be happy with. Why be unhappy? Monogamy leads to matrimony.

Smarter women will realize that you know a lot of other women. It will bother some, but not all. Some may even find this sexy or attractive in a man. If a woman becomes too possessive, it is probably time to leave her.

2) DO NOT TAKE REJECTION PERSONALLY

Rejection is part and parcel of being a man. Even the best Alphas are subjected to this humiliation on a daily basis if they are actively pursuing women. Rejection is part of the game.

Remember, you will be able to sit down to a full steak dinner and enjoy it just after being rejected by a woman. Rejection will not kill you. It only stings a bit. If you believe in yourself and know your own value, it cannot damage you permanently.

You will be rejected by women better than you and women far inferior to you, but learn to accept it. After all, how can you take rejection seriously when it is coming from a total stranger who knows nothing about you? In most cases the woman who doles out this rejection will be missing out on some real excitement. You can also claim bragging rights to being rejected by the best!

Remember too, that the woman who rejects you today may accept you next week. Timing is everything!

If you cannot take rejection or ridicule, you might as well quit right now. Get married!

3) TRULY LIKE WOMEN

It is a key component in your total success program. Women cannot resist it! When you are with a woman, pay complete attention to her...hang on every word. Make her feel special. Never discuss other women in her presence; especially in a positive way.

Remember that women are greatly influences by little gestures such as flowers and cards. The power of romance cannot be overestimated. Remember:

"The Way To Handle A Woman Is To Love Her" Camelot

Women are also much more concerned about what society thinks of them (especially their peers). Lastly, they are more concerned about financial security than they would have you believe. This is instinctive. They are less concerned about looks in a man than vice-versa. But this does not mean that looks don't count. They do!

4) HAVE SOMEONE IN THE WINGS

It makes object obsessiveness less likely. Recovery after the end of a relationship is easier. Becoming too attached to one woman can be deadly to your happiness (See #1).

5) BE SELF-VALIDATING

The only way to guarantee independence and freedom is not to rely on anyone except yourself for validation. Once you learn to validate yourself, you are on the road to total happiness. Very few men have the internal resources to accomplish this over the long haul. Be one! You must be self-motivated and self-rewarding. Once you achieve this, you can accomplish whatever you want. Require no one to validate you. Let no one validate you! If you require or crave external validation, you will never succeed with women or in life. It is like being a drug addict. Develop your own motivation and reward yourself when you succeed in a particularly difficult task.

6) BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE (Optimized)

Looks and attitude cannot be overestimated. Both traits can be enhanced through strong self confidence. Confidence comes from always being the best you can be.

7) DE-EMPHASIZE PHYSICAL SEX

We all want to get laid (male and female), but you will do remarkably better in this area if you do not overemphasize it, especially at first. Remember that most women do not crave sexual intercourse with every man they meet. Only with a man they have a serious interest in. You have to develop that relationship first. When a woman wants to go to bed with you, you will know it. No one will have to ring a bell!

Avoid graphic sexual talk. It will usually work against you. It is better to be clever and talk around sex.

8) EASY DOES IT!

Success with most women requires mucho patience. Never force anything...especially with young girls. You will have days when nothing you do is right, and you will have days when you cannot do any wrong. The truth is usually somewhere inbetween. Try to keep your head.

Remember that you are usually flying blind. You will make a lot of mistakes because you are being very pro-active, but don't crash! If you survive a battle, you can return to fight again another day. No one is more failure-prone as the forceful boor.

9) GO WITH THE FLOW

Be satisfied that to many women you will be nothing more than a friend no matter what you do. If the chemistry isn't there, there isn't much you can do about it. Some women find Tom Selleck unattractive! And some love the looks of James Woods. No matter what you look like, there are many women who will find you irresitibly attractive and sexy. The world of sex thrives on diversity. But improve your chances by optimizing yourself. Also, women who are involved in a serious relationship are hard to reach on any level.

10) PLAY THE PERCENTAGES

The more you try, the more you will succeed. But try intelligently. This does not give you carte blanche to be on the make at all times. Choose your moments. Average men might try only a few times a month ...or even a few times a year! You should be trying whenever a promising situation arises. How will you know? You will. I guarantee you that the percentages will work in your favor over the long haul.

11) BE A ROGUE

Many women are attracted to the bad boy. Maybe it is because they find danger exciting or want to thumb their nose at their parents or society in general. Or maybe they just want to reform their man. There are even women that want to be dumped on! Actually enjoy it. Arrogance is not necessarily bad in some situations. Don't be too easy. This may not work with your personality, but it probably pays not to be a goodie twoshoes. The Cardinal Sin is to be DULL...Boring.

12) NEVER GENERALIZE

There are as many types of women out there as there are men. No one approach will work with all of them. Each program must be tailored to an individual situation. There is no one size fits all personality or approach that will work with any regularity.

Women's lib and the modern world have changed the way many women think, but beneath the surface things have not changed that much. Be careful what you say about liberated women. If in doubt, don't say it!

Men tend to be more graphic than women when it comes to sex talk. Subtlety and romance can go a long way to insuring your success in the early stages of a relationship. Man women find a certain sexual naivete attractive, if only in a fantasy way.

13) NEVER BE A THREAT

While it is true that most women are attracted to danger, in most cases you might do better by appearing to be non-threatening and then, only subtly, intimating that you can be dangerous. This gives it to women both ways. Most women will shy away from someone they feel they cannot trust in any situation.

14) LIVE YOUR LIFE WITHOUT A SAFETY NET

You will find it much more rewarding and exciting. Those who are always in control ...always concerned about what people think ...or always afraid of the consequences of their actions, lead dull lives.

15) BEWARE OF THE DANGEROUS WOMAN

This is the woman that you instantly fall in love with. You will probably be totally helpless when dealing with the dangerous woman and that is why you should give serious thought to avoiding her altogether. I know that this contrdicts rule #14 to some degree, but if you choose to break this rule indiscriminately, don't blame me if you wind up with a wife, three kids, a mortgage and a station wagon. Chemistry--strong chemistry--is difficult if not impossible to counteract and, if you love the dangerous woman more than she loves you, she will be in complete control of the situation. If you cannot resist the dangerous woman, at least be aware that she might exist for you. Somewhere. Breaking this rule--or being unaware of it--can lead to a great deal of heartache and despair.

FOLLOWING THESE RULES CAN MAKE YOU SUCCESSFUL, HAPPY, AND FREE!